31 Years, 31 Lessons

Every year that day comes when you grow a day older and time passes you by once again. You reflect on those years you can never get back as you prepare to make new experiences out of years to come.  Growing up seemed like an event that would never come as a kid. Now it’s a thing we wish we could slow down at times. The good, the bad and the ugly, comes when you grow older, but I don’t regret any of it. I’ve learned a lot over the years that has shaped me into the man I am today. Who would have thought, I’d spend year 30 stuck at home, questioning the future of the world. Spending 30 questioning if friendships were still there, if people still had my back. Realigning my goals, trying new things, making new friends, connections and making the most of what I had. Life got crazy for many people, and like me I’m sure many lessons were learned. Here’s 31 things I’ve learned through life, and people , and through pain and happiness, some serious some funny:

1. Other people have sacrificed something for you to be where you are today. ( Thank you Moma)

2. Everybody wants loyalty , but everybody ain’t loyal ?

3. You are not going to have all the friends you once had growing up. People grow apart. Make some new ones and cherish the ones you have.

4. Just like people have sacrificed for you, you have to sacrifice for others as well as yourself to get to where you need to be.

5. It’s life to get hurt. It’s going to happen.. Take your time to deal with it. You have the right to feel what you feel and heal on your time.

6. You are going to question some things about yourself. It’s only natural that when you grow,  you will start to outgrow habits and ideas about yourself.

7. Sometimes your best friends aren’t the ones you speak to everyday or the ones who are close in distance to you.  They still provide loyalty and companionship regardless of how much they are around physically.

8. You are gonna F*ck up.. Just accept it, it’s gon happen. That’s life , we F*ck up until we get it right.

9. Everybody isn’t your friend. Some people may just be cool from afar You will have people that dislike you for reasons known and unknown… Oh well! Life goes on.  FDB

10. Don’t force things! Love , friendships , situations , anything.

11. Ain’t Sh*t people exist in all genders. Learn to avoid them. Learn to not be one of them.

12. “I been counting what’s on my bucket list and not on my blessings” be thankful for what you have, and don’t dwell on what you don’t have. Quit comparing and look forward to what’s in store for you

13. A lot of things you think matter, people you think matter, they really don’t ….. Just a chapter in your life that had to be read to get to the next part of the story.

14. Time is precious, treat it as such and make sure others recognize and respect that as well

15. Chipotle is still not life…

16. Change will happen, Change is life.. You know what else is life?

17. Ball is life ……

18. Music and food are the most important things in life next to being a nerd.

19. The struggle is real, but appreciate that struggle! It will teach you how to survive in this world if you humble yourself from it and learn the lessons it hands out.

20. Your mental health is important. The mental health of the people around us is important. Take the time to care if that and realize it’s ok to feel off, but take the time to get back on.

21. Hakuna Matada, what a wonderful phrase. it means no worries , for the rest of your days….

22.  Reading and writing is essential. Unlock your mind ! Take a look, it’s in a book, it’s reading rainbow !!!

23. Karma is real! Treat people right. It’s much easier to carry love on your shoulders than hate.

24. Live your life to the fullest regardless of your age. Take all opportunities, take a chance, take risk and enjoy the world and the people around you!

25. Pray, believe and love yourself and take care of yourself. Be blessed that you were able to see another year and  take the steps to ensure you see another one.

26. Even through the toughest of times, you can prevail! When I was at my lowest, I still came out on top. You win some you lose some, but you live to fight another day (Pops voice).

27. Get a Hobby! The older you get the more some stuff will get old to you. Find an interest and create moments through doing the things you love.

28. Be you and do what you love at all times. Appreciate yourself because no one else will, and if they don’t, they don’t need to be around you.

29. Self Care, I’m treating me good. Self care is essential to life. Take the time to make sure you are mentally, physically, and spiritually good. Take breaks to do things for you.

30. I’ve probably said treat people right, but how about treating people. Be kind to others and do for others just like you would for yourself. Many folks suffer in silence or behind smiles. How are you giving back to others?

31. Just when you think, opportunities, friends, situations and more have come to a close or have left you, that is when you find what you really love, and who really cares about you. Your circumstances sometimes will lead you to knew opportunities as well as people who could change your life. When one door close, more open. Sometimes you gotta knock the door down though, or climb through the window with consent.. Just dont be snatching they people up…

Happy birthday to me! What would be a great gift is if you share this and comment 😬😬

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