Who detached us?

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This new Generation of African-Americans are a beautiful young group of people.   The problem is,  most of that beauty is masked by flaws, we fail to acknowledge, The ugly things we love to indulge in, and the lack of motivation geared towards ourselves and our fellow people. We live in a generation where communication is the key we lost and forgot to make spare keys..Its like people these days expect you to know how they are feeling, what they want , and how you need to do it.  Many of the problems today are a result from lack of communication.  

What is it with our generation that limits our ability to communicate efficiently. It’s quite ironic that communication is the reason we can’t communicate how we should. We hide behind computer screens, timelines, and text messages. Social media is our generations biggest kryptonite and we fall prey to its poisonous effects daily. They say a picture speaks a thousand words… But let me tell you how instagram can tell a thousand lies. It’s a popularity, acceptance contest when it comes to social media, and everybody is putting on. People want their life to LOOK better than yours. I know people who are miserable in their relationships, but they look like couple of the decade on instagram. But let’s be real, that’s what instagram is for right? Getting likes, being seen. We would rather capture the perfect moment, then to focusing on enjoying those moments. The main thing with our generation now is cyber bullying and the sad thing about that is we don’t even notice it. We all do it in all shapes and forms. We can talk all the smack we want behind a screen, but timid in person. We post pictures of embarrassing things about others. Don’t get me started on exposing people. You mean to tell me that you are so immature and afraid of communicating how you feel that you have to stoop to the level of ignorance and pettiness and expose a secret or nudes. People are doing this to feel like the man or that chick. Boys do it, to get points from another man..which is g….nvm. Girls do it to make themselves seem more desired, and I personally believe women get a high off of turning men down and letting it be known. I blame the men for this, because we boost every girl whether she a 4 or a 10 just to get some action. All the while this is going on, we can barely make eye contact in person, or even approach people with our feelings, but we sure can post it…. but this is just a small part of the bad communication with our people. I’ll touch more on social media at a later date.

Text messages, so easy and efficient, yet killing communication day by day. If you know me, you know im opinionated, and that hurts me through text messages. Why? because im disagreeing with you, you are getting a vibe that im being hostile, rude and smug, but how can you tell when you can’t see my face? Text messages take away the aesthetics that make communication a bonding experience. LOL<– but you’re not even laughing, and yet we not enjoying seeing the smile on each other's faces when we arouse each others interest. Gestures, facial expressions and voice are important parts of communication. You cant feel emotion in my text message (UNLESS ITS IN ALL CAPS). And if it's important, why are we texting, especially if it is a serious argument? I want to see your reactions, see your facial expressions, and give you ample time to respond. Sometimes we just need to put the phone down and meet up and enjoy each others presence..

When it comes down to it we are a selfish when it comes to communication, and we fear the unknown. For example We love to give our opinion, and we hate to hear anybody else. God gave us one mouth to speak but two ears to listen twice as much. I feel like people are afraid of their views being challenged and do not want to stray from it, and at other times we won’t speak at all from fear of not being accepted or being talked about. But our generation has lost respect for other people, and if you think different the norm, something is wrong with you. Lets not forget about leading people on which is a lack of communication to another level. We will tell a woman what she want to hear just to get what we can, although they tell us,we can be upfront and straight up with what we want, we know they don’t mean it lol. A woman will lead a man on knowing she don’t want him, but she need that back up plan, cause things are not working with her man, because they lack communication. Not saying both these examples don’t go toward both genders, but we see it everyday. We not honest with each other, lies run the world. We would rather lie about how we feel or what we doing to satisfy a situation. We tell people what they want to hear and not what they need to hear. We Fear rejection… reasons why we don’t ever speak on what we feel or go for the things we want. We will something that will bother us or see something on social media and assume, and we will be like ” It ain’t nothing to cut that B*tch off” just because we would rather control our own destiny. We fear fighting for something that could possibly never work, so we would rather end it without ever communicating efficiently. If we don’t get instant gratification, we move on or we quit. We lazy and stubborn and don’t want to work out our problems, holding on to grudges further hampering you from communicating because you have trust issues. We will tell social media our problems before we will confront the other person, but we hate people in our business. We want everyone to be real with us, but we can’t even convey our feelings and be real with ourselves. We want our relationships to work out, but you dislike arguing, so problems never get solved, and you seek your answer elsewhere. it’s all a cycle that continues to plaque us.

I need some answers to these questions that I’m asking
We used to be connected, who detached us
We used to be respected, now they laughing
We’ve turned into possessions with no passion
How we go from the best to less than average
We used to be connected, who detached us

“Death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it
And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life
It is Life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new
Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life
Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking
Don’t let the noise of others opinions drown out your own inner voice
And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary
Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish
It was their farewell message as they signed off…
And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you
Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish” -Steve Jobs-

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4 Comments Add yours

  1. Melanie says:

    I really enjoyed the post. I agree with you today’s society has lost sight on what is real communication.

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  2. Jas says:

    Same conversation we were JUST having!

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